If it is the intention of Valentines day for lovers to express their love for each other to each other, then I think that the day defeats itself in serving its purpose. If one needs a special day to express their love and are doing so only because the day asks for it, then how sincere could such expressions of love be? I am tempted to think that expressing ones love on any other day then a day that calls for it would be more sincere then expressing ones love because one has been called upon to do so. To have a single day to promote the importance of love not only seems to belittle those of us who love with the same passion every day, but it also diminishes the value of love on this day by making the motivation of love on Valentines day to be Valentines day itself. Why wait to send flowers, chocolates, cards, etc… in the name of love only on this day, rather then being open to send such tokens of love on any day one feels like it. Every day we should share our love, and we should not need a day like Valentines day to be motivated to express our love. If you do need such motivation, then you need to reexamine if what you are feeling is indeed, love.
I should remark that I am not suggesting that ones love cannot be sincere on Valentines day, but the day certainly has the potential to try to steal one original genuine motivation of love and try to take credit for it. Do not allow such a day to take credit for your love, express your love everyday, and do not articulate your love simply because it is Valentines day but do so with the same genuineness like you would have done so had it of not been a holiday promoting love.
While I do have these concerns with Valentines day, I do give it credit for reminding those who normally do not love, to love. It should be understood however, that any expressions of love should be done so on ones own accord, not necessarily because it is Valentines day, and ones love should go beyond just one day a year.
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I think that valentines day has an interesting history, but you shouldn’t have to be reminded to love. Its sad if you do. The problem with the holiday is that people blow it way too far out of proportion. Its become a competition sport. I posted about it this week too.
Thanks for your thoughts Kate. I will check out your post.
Oh, and here I thought it was all about candy hearts and chocolate chip cookies….which is about all I use the day for anyway, an excuse to gorge myself on sweets!
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Well put my new blogging friend. Well put.
When my wife and I got hitched, I vowed to ask myself, each day, how can this day be the most adventurous, breath-taking, and most-loving day of our lives together. That was nearly 3 years ago.
I can honestly say that the adventures of breath taking loving days continues on.
I guess Valentines Day is everyday (not to sound too cheesy or anything) for us.
Love reading your stuff.
(BTW…with your permission, I’d love to put you on my blogroll).
Hi Derrick, thanks for the reflecting on your everyday loving relationship with your wife. I think that is great. I looked over your blog as well and I concluded that I would be very happy to be friends and exchange links with you.
Thanks Travis.
Here’s to the blogging community.
Cheers my friend.
I agree with your post, and the subsequent replies.
I’m a hopeless romantic myself, and my wife and I are always hugging, kissing and expressing our love.
We still celebrate Valentines day, but I take the time to cook a personal meal, add some candles and also a hand written (and made) card with my own words, not those of some industry writer.
I’m often criticised by those who don’t even know me because I believe in love and romance, hey, should I care? I think not
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